Relationships

Mike Calimbas

Whether it occurs in the home, at work, or many other places, human beings maintain relationships everywhere they go. People have different types of relationships. A person keeps a relationship with their mother, pastor, friend, and boss, but those relationships are all different. There are many different elements to analyze when discussing a relationship. Many factors are involved, such as amount of time spent, amount of intimacy, types of activities participated in, and dependability of the relationship.

The first type of relationship a person typically has, are ones that are formed within a religious setting, such as a church, temple, or synagogue. The amount of time spent within this relationship varies depending on how much type an individual devotes to his or her religion. However, the amount of intimacy is usually very high, as one divulges most, if not all, of their personal problems and issues. The relationships formed within the religious setting is usually dependable in that one can rely of the people within the religious circle for advice and counsel, through the bond of a common faith. One participates in limited activities within this relationship, ones that are exclusive to activities that are in the religious setting, such as church bake sales and Sunday mass.

Secondly, another type of a common relationship are formed within a club setting such as athletics and parties. The people one encounters in these types of settings may be very close to them, but only within the boundaries of a club. For example, two people on a football team may shed blood, sweat, and tears for each other, but not necessarily be the best of friends after the season. In sports, the time spent with each other is usually a lot, a couple of hours every day at the very least. The amount of intimacy shared within athletics is not always abundant. The information shared between usually shared between teammates stays within the boundaries of the particular sport in which they are participating. Likewise, dependability is not required for purposes other than those related to athletics. For example, a football player can depend on his teammates to block for him in the game, but not to pay off his mortgage. Activities shared with teammates are most often limited to athletic practices, games, and gatherings related to the particular sport.

In comparison to athletics, party friends are similar in many ways. People who go to the same parties may see each other all the time, but they are not bound by their relationship to be very intimate with each other. One can party with another person every single weekend but not know many personal details about that other person. The time spent in these relationships are limited to how many social gathering a person wishes to attend. Dependability is minimal, as one does not want to rely on a person he or she gets drunk with to help in important matters. This form of relationship is purely for entertainment and not for reliability.

Another necessary relationship in ones relationship is the professional relationship. These relationships are the ones that a person is involved with at their workplace. This type of relationship includes bosses, co-workers, and customers. The time spent in within these relationships varies on one's hours, but for the most part, takes up the bulk of their week. There is usually no personal information shared, as the relationships are purely business. Intimacy should be kept at a minimum to maximize work efficiency. Dependability and reliability is an important factor, but limited strictly on job related issues. The work relationship is an important one, as it is generally the relationship with the strictest set of guidelines. Activities included in the professional relationship is always limited to just those that occur in the workplace.

Another place people form relationships is in the educational setting. One associates with teachers and classmates by necessity, as interaction is required in the classroom setting. The time spent with the people one meets in this setting is limited to the time spent in a particular class. Interaction takes place from teacher-to-student and student-to-student, but this socialization is limited to the time spent in the class. Also, discussions on personal topics are limited, as the topic of discussion is most often decided by the courses' curriculum. Thus, the amount of intimacy is kept at a minimum. Dependability is also kept at a minimum in