4MAT Book Reviews # 3 Family to Family: Leaving a Lasting Legacy

Submitted to Dr. Jon Bishop,
in partial fulfillment of the requirements for the completion of

EVAN 525-B12 LUO
Contemporary Evangelism


Joyce Gerald
February 25, 2015

Abstract 1 -2

Concrete Response 2-3

Reflection 3-4

Action Steps 4-7

Bibliography …………………………………………………………………………………….. 8

Jerry Pipes and Victor Lee have written a book about God's intended purpose for the family. The book proffers steps by step directions for preparing families for the Great Commission. Pipes and Lee offers a compelling argument of how to establish and maintain a healthy God ordained family that is powered to be on mission for the Kingdom of God. The book is not a quick fix for dysfunctional families. The book is divided into six brief chapters with supportive evidence supports the profile of an unhealthy family. The data for unhealthy families is thorough and leads the reader to visualize news media presentations about the demise of families across America. The authors produced a visual lifestyle "T" chart that compared unhealthy families and described that were involved in "activity-driven merry-go-round. . . stretched, stressed, and losing touch with one another", as opposed to healthy families that were on mission for God. Pipes and Lees identified healthy families as families that embraced their God ordained right as their children's first teachers and disciplers. The authors suggested that readers examine their families to determine how much quality time they spend together; to ascertain their commitment level to each other, and to define if their purpose is centered - on themselves or on God.  Pipes and Lee dispensed seven realities of experiencing God as an evaluative tool to identify the incarnational nature of the family's spiritual existence. The main thrust of the book is how to develop a God-centered family that passes on the baton of evangelism from generation to generation.
Concrete Response
The thought that came to mind as I read this book was, "What happened to my daughters?" We were the family that studied together. As far as the congregation could see the Geralds had an "exemplary" family. We lived by the " Start   children off on the way they should go, and even when they are old they will not turn from it " scripture (Proverbs 22:6).
As we drove from place to place, we talked about the awesomeness of God and the wonders of his creation. His words were everywhere in our home; they were literally on the doorposts.
However, as I think back to our family Bible studies and our missional pursuits, Joyce was the one who initiated the process. My husband was not the spiritual leader of our home. We were not on any true discipleship missions for the Lord. Yes, we took care of the fatherless and the widows, but these were the people who were already in the church. As a family, we did not reach out to the unchurched with the intention of specifically sharing Jesus with them. Yes, we opened the doors of our home to them. We met them at their point of need, but we did not say, "Would you like to know Jesus Christ as your personal Savior?" So what happened to my daughters?
They both went off to college. They both gave their lives to the Lord. They both served him and his people. However, when Allison could not find a mate at age thirty-three the pressures of the world caved in on her. Her relationship with the Lord was not personal enough to withstand them. If we were focused on the Great Commission to worship, it is highly probable that she would not have married the first guy that was nice to her. He happens to be a non-Christian and has for want of a better word, a really foul mouth. He validated her in ways that the church did not when she was away from home. Allison saw the spiritual disconnect between the Word of God and the actions of the church, and her family and walked away from it all. So, did her sister. Allison was, and still is, a huge influence on her sister. The one thing I