Breaking Up

Mike Calimbas

Once in a person's lifetime, everyone finds this one perfect person whom they fall hopelessly in love with and live happily ever after. That is a mere fallacy, in the real world, this simply does not happen. Yes, people do have common interests and therefore develop romantic involvement, but it is basic common sense that these relationships have a life span and simply cannot last. Real life relationships are definitely more like "The Real World" rather than "Romeo and Juliet". Romanticism is wonderful in itself, and thus two people can live in heavenly bliss, but it all must come to an end somehow. It is a fact of life that couples do break up, and there are many reasons why. There are countless reasons, ranging from cheating to lack of sex to abuse, attributing to breakups.

One reason why couples might break up is money or a lack thereof. If one partner in a relationship is always paying or keeping up all the bills, his/her partner just might grow tired of it and decide that it is a valid reason to separate. For example, a woman who is always lending her boyfriend money for his rent, car note, and social expenses will probably eventually grow tired of it and leave him.

More reasons why couples separate, addictions often result in ugly breakups. Whether it is an addiction to drugs, sex, gambling, or whatever, hardly anyone would be willing to take that on an everyday basis. Most people would agree that it is not pretty to see someone throw their life away on addictions. It is simply not attractive and thus, not many people would want to be with someone with an extreme problem like that.

An unfortunate reason for a breakup, physical disabilities, also occurs at times. This can range from a paralyzing accident to impotence and infertility. To some people, having children is the most important priority in their adult life. Having a partner whom is unable to have children can very much hinder a relationship. Thus, it will not last. Likewise, having a partner who has a paralyzing disability might be too much for someone to take. Being with a person, who becomes handicapped, though unfortunate, is a big burden to place on a person.

Growing apart, an instance in which two people just do not feel attraction towards each other anymore is very commonplace, resulting in an end of a relationship. Some couples simply "fall out of love". Some people can only stand so much of another person before they grow tired of the situation. Also, it could be as a result to distance. For example, when a couple who were together in high school go their own ways in choosing colleges, this, most often than not, results in the couple breaking up. A long distance relationship like that simply that does work out often.

In direct relation to growing apart, a person sometimes finds another person besides their boy/girlfriend who they are attracted to. Finding somebody "better" will kill a relationship quickly, and start a new relationship. If a person finds someone more attractive than the person they are currently with, they might have to weigh their options and decide that they want to go another direction.

Likewise, when a person finds someone they like just as they are attracted to the person they are with, this could result in cheating, another reason why couples break up. If a guy catches his girlfriend is cheating on him, or vice versa, this could very well be a valid reason to end that relationship. Finding someone cheating leads to a lack of trust and thus, kills the relationship.

Also, another very serious reason resulting in a break-up is abuse. When someone abuses his or her girlfriend, spouse, or children, a break-up is definitely necessary. Someone who is taking abuse is playing with fire by letting it go on. They are simply risking their lives, and thus, they need to let it stop so a break-up has to occur. Besides physical and sexual abuse, people can also abuse power and money. Nevertheless, no matter what kind of abuse it is, none of it is healthy, and all are good reasons for a break-up.

Lastly, the most common of all reasons for break-ups are differences. This can include different life goals; differences in religion; different race; incompatible personalities; and families that don't approve. With life goals, if one